Preparing for Marriage:
Why Should I Prepare for 2nd Marriages?

"Preparing for marriage? Is that really necessary with 2nd marriages?" This is one of the most frequently asked questions I get. The short answer is yes!

Unfortunately a lot of people are under the incorrect assumption that just because they've been married before, they don't need to prepare for marriage the next time around because they already know what to expect. Let's put that theory to the test:

If you're preparing for marriage with someone who's been married before: Preparation isn't just for the partner who's been married before. It's for you as well! You've been in other relationships too. Helping the two of you understand what married life with one another will look, function and feel like is important. Taking the time to work through any hurts from the past helps free the path toward a successful remarriage.

If you were married before and your spouse died: This is a new marriage. Because you've been married before, you will come into this 2nd marriage with expectations of how married life should be. The problem is that it will not be a carbon copy of your previous marriage.

It's not uncommon for widows and widowers to seem completely shocked once in their 2nd marriages. It's at this point they realize just how different life is this time around. Preparing for these differences in 2nd marriages is essential to the success of your new marriage.

If you were married before and you've experienced a divorce:

Your ex may have had a lot to do with why the marriage ended, but your ex is not 100% responsible. A marriage is made up of 2 people and it takes 2 people for a marriage to end.

There are some things you may need to do differently this time around in order to make this 2nd marriage a success. You may be asking, "How do I begin this process of preparing for marriage in 2nd marriages?" A great place to start is with THE 7 Questions to Ask Before Saying "I Do" Again.

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