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My Ex Just Comes In My House Unannounced

by Danny
(Pennsylvania)

I've been divorced for almost a year. I chose to move close to my ex to make it easier on our kids. The problem is that my ex just comes in the house whenever she comes to pick up the kids - even when I'm not home.

I do not live in the same house we lived in as a couple, but she acts like it's her home. I've asked her several times to stop barging in my home. She just becomes irate when I do this and tells me because she's the kids' mother, she has a right to come into their home whenever she chooses.

Do you think it's wrong for me to not want her coming and going as she pleases in my house? Our kids are older and don't need her to physically come in to pick them up. I feel like she's just being nosy about my new life.

Any ideas on how to get my point across without causing an argument?

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by: Maggie

Hi Danny,

My ex started doing that once he heard I'd started dating again. I think it was a jealousy thing. My kids were younger, so I'd let him come into my house to get the kids clothes for the weekend. But instead, he'd start wandering around in my kitchen and I even found him looking through my mail!

I knew if I confronted him directly it would end up in a huge argument. From then on, I would have everything ready on the front porch waiting for him. Then once he got there, I'd walk the kids out to him.

That may be an option for you too. Or you could always meet her somewhere instead of have her come to your house.

Good luck!

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