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Ex Spouses: How Much Do I Need to Interact With Him?

by George
(Denver)

My wife had an abusive first marriage. She doesn't like to interact with her ex at all. Unfortunately, she really needs to because of her kids.

I noticed that once we married, she really tries to push all conversations with him off on me. I've worked real hard to keep things civil with him even though I can't stand what he did to my wife when they were married.

It's uncomfortable though, and I wonder if I'm causing more harm than good in not having her deal with him directly.

Does anyone have any suggestions for this?

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Here's my story
by: Doug

I had a similar problem with my wife. Once we were married, it was like she just wanted to step out of all parenting responsibilities and expected me to do it all. Let me tell you - THAT was a mistake! It almost cost us our marriage!

Her kids immediately went from liking me to hating me. I got the old, "you're not my dad!" thing all the time.

She also tried having me deal with her ex when it came to parenting time. That didn't work so well because he was really possessive and angry that she remarried.

It sounds like your situation is a little better. I'd suggest telling her you're uncomfortable. You can be sure you're right beside her whenever she talks to him (in person or on the phone) in order to protect her in case he tries to be a jerk.

That might help! Good luck, man.

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